Psychology of An Abusive Person

The more liberty an abusive person gets, the more he starts thinking that it's ok to behave that way. That behavior becomes a normal for that person. Same applies to groups or gangs. We don't need to have a psychology certificate or degree for that. At times, psychologists themselves become abuser and a support to abusive people or gangs. 

The more you will live nearby such people, the more impacted will be your life. My idea of getting rid of such people is to maintain a distance. But what to do when such abusers have entered your living and official space? When that space is full of invisible history? Invisible just because you distanced yourself, not them. When you wanna know hows and whys of such a history? You have to suffer more? Yes, because now they fear not just the expose but action also. They try to suffocate and malign you every possible way. You will find trapped in totally unproductive zone and quarrelsome, offensive, violent every possible way people err enforcers. Violence is not just physical. There is also something known as mental violence.

People at times questioned me that so and so person said you so and so, why did not you reciprocate? I believe the more you will engage with the abuser, the more you will start aping that language. To keep your own sanity and mental peace, it's important not to fall prey to that. I felt once to reply, after some violence at university. A great lady abused my mother in her filthy language. Even police version wrote some part of that, in their complain. But rather than responding back in that language, I gave a term to such people, "मुँह-हग-दौरे". Such people defecate their shit via their mouths. What to respond back to organized violent people against a single women? That's also at university level. People whose level of thinking is that, it's ok to do violence. How much concern could be about their language?

Bigger concern is about that system which allows such happenings. And till today no action against them. For some people concern was more about some job. For someone like me, it was more about environment and surrounding. Most unemployed force in this part of world is unemployed, because they think to get easy jobs, without doing any work. It's ok to get salary and don't do any work. Or work for bosses and political parties. Most guys in this part of world think even about work like, this is women work and this is men. This is lower category work and this is higher. In this process, so called higher category becomes even more dictator and king type. They become habitual to yes boss people. No question-raising people are good for them and their chairs. And abusive circle in the society becomes more incorporated.